How to Write the Best Funeral Eulogy: A Guide by Barthram Funeral Services
Writing a funeral eulogy is a deeply emotional task. Whether you're honouring a parent, friend, or loved one, it can feel overwhelming to express everything you feel in just a few minutes.
Yet, a well-prepared eulogy can bring comfort, closure, and a beautiful tribute to the person’s life. At Barthram Funeral Services, we’ve helped many families craft meaningful tributes, and this guide is here to help you do the same.
What Is a Funeral Eulogy?
A funeral eulogy is a heartfelt speech delivered at a funeral service that honours and celebrates the life of the deceased. Unlike an obituary, which is typically factual, a eulogy is personal; it’s your opportunity to share stories, reflect on memories, and express what the person meant to you and others.
A eulogy can be religious or non-religious, solemn or even light-hearted; what matters most is that it’s sincere and respectful.
What Makes the Best Funeral Eulogy?
The best funeral eulogy is one that feels true to your loved one. It doesn't have to be poetic or perfect; it just needs to come from the heart. Some qualities that define a strong eulogy include:
- Authenticity: Speak genuinely and honestly.
- Personal Touches: Share meaningful memories or inside jokes that reflect the person’s character.
- Balance: Blend humour (if appropriate) with dignity and reflection.
- Clarity: Keep it structured so it’s easy to follow for listeners.
Remember: people won’t remember every word, but they will remember how your words made them feel.
How to Write the Best Funeral Eulogy: Step-by-Step
Writing a eulogy becomes less daunting with a clear structure. Here’s how to begin:
1. Start with an Introduction
- Mention your name and your relationship to the person.
- Acknowledge the honour it is to speak on their behalf.
“My name is Sarah, and I had the privilege of calling John my father."
2. Share Their Life Story (Briefly)
- Highlight key life events: childhood, career, family, passions.
- Focus on positive milestones and achievements.
3. Add Personal Stories and Memories
- Share anecdotes that showcase their personality.
- Choose moments that reflect their values, humour, kindness, or strength.
“He never missed a Sunday roast, and he made the world’s crispiest potatoes.”
4. Reflect on Their Legacy
- Talk about how they touched others’ lives.
- Mention what they taught you or others.
5. Offer a Thoughtful Farewell
- Acknowledge grief while offering comfort.
- End with a message of love or hope.
“Though we say goodbye today, your love and laughter will echo in our hearts forever.”
Funeral Eulogy Structure Template
You can follow this simple framework to stay organised:
- Opening: Name, relationship, thank the audience
- Life Overview: Key milestones
- Personal Reflections: Stories and traits
- Values & Legacy: What they left behind
- Farewell Message: Heartfelt closing
Dos and Don’ts of Writing a Funeral Eulogy
Dos
- Keep it around
3–7 minutes (600–1,000 words)
- Practise out loud for flow and comfort
- Speak with warmth and composure
- Ask someone to review it if unsure
Don’ts
- Avoid overusing in-jokes or private references
- Don’t worry about being formal, be heartfelt
- Try not to dwell on regrets or unfinished issues
Example Opening and Closing Lines for a Eulogy
Opening Lines
- “We gather here to celebrate the life of someone who meant the world to us all.”
- “I am honoured to stand before you to share a few words about my dear friend.”
Closing Lines
- “Though their chair is empty, their presence will forever fill our hearts.”
- “Let us remember them with a smile, just as they would have wanted.”
Struggling to Find the Words? Consider Alternatives
If public speaking feels too difficult during such an emotional time, here are a few other meaningful ways to honour your loved one:
- Read a favourite
poem, quote, or scripture
- Play their
favourite song
- Create a
photo slideshow or
video tribute
- Ask multiple people to share
short stories instead of one long eulogy
Barthram Funeral Services can help coordinate any of these elements with sensitivity and care.
How Barthram Funeral Services Can Support You
At Barthram, we understand the weight of delivering a eulogy. We’re here to support you in:
- Structuring your thoughts and memories
- Printing copies or sharing the speech during the service
- Providing non-religious and religious ceremony options
- Offering full funeral arrangements, tributes, and memory tables
Whether you’re speaking at a traditional funeral or planning a more personalised service, our team is here to help you honour your loved one beautifully.
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Final Thoughts: Speak from the Heart
The best funeral eulogy doesn’t need to be perfect; it just needs to be true to your relationship with the person. Let your love, respect, and memories guide your words.
Need help writing a eulogy or planning a service? Contact Barthram Funeral Services; we’re here to support you every step of the way.
